I realized something hard about myself…

Assalamu Alaikum Reader,

A strange and eerie thought dawned on me recently.

For so long, I’ve been at the heart of wanting good for everyone.

I think right, I try to do right, and somewhere along the way, I found myself wanting others to think and do the same.

But here’s the truth I had to sit with:

🤍 No matter how good your intentions are, you cannot enforce yourself or your decisions on someone else.

🤍 You cannot make someone change, not even the people you love most.

🤍 And when you try too hard, it can start feeling like your love is heavy instead of light.

That’s when I realized — it’s a sign to set a boundary within myself.

It’s also a sign to turn to Allah, to make dua, and to remember that He is the Turner of Hearts.

But it still hurts, doesn’t it?

When you’ve worked so hard, loved so deeply, and still feel like you’re not being loved or valued in return.

Recently, my husband imitated me — showing me how I sound to him when I correct and “guide.”

And it broke me a little inside. Because despite all my efforts and love, that was his experience of me.

Have you ever felt that too?

That you’re trying so hard to do good, but the feedback you get feels like rejection?

Resentment runs deep, sister.

But being aware, making dua, and making changes — even if slow — is all part of the process.

Don’t lose heart. Allah has your back.

And if right now you feel stuck, weighed down, or unsure how to shift this cycle… you don’t have to carry it alone.

I’m opening up Clarity Calls — a safe, heart-centered space for you to untangle your thoughts, reset your perspective, and feel lighter again.

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With duas for your peace,

Insiya Abdur Raheem

Salaam!