Assalamu Alaikum Reader,

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One of the hardest things to realize in marriage is when we’ve quietly checked out on each other.

Life gets busy. Kids, responsibilities, careers, community — and somewhere along the way, we stop prioritizing our marriage as a living, growing relationship.

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Instead, we cling to the comfort of “forever.”
We stay out of fear of abandonment or rejection.
But we forget to nurture love from a place of compassion, respect, and appreciation.

Think about it:

📱 Our phones remind us constantly to update.
But when was the last time you “updated” your understanding of your husband?

Are you still holding onto the version of him from when you first met, when you got married, or when he landed his first job?
Or have you taken the time to discover who he is now — his physical and mental health, his choices, his struggles, his quiet wins?

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Marriage is not about clinging to the past version of one another.
It’s about meeting each other in the present season.

When you practice acceptance, and show appreciation for his journey, you make your husband feel seen and heard.

And the beauty is — whatever love, compassion, and understanding you give sincerely, Allah promises to grant you what you truly need.

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But this begins with slowing down.​
✨With silently and curiously observing before talking.
✨With listening more than assuming.

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So ask yourself today:

✨ When was the last time you truly observed the man you married — and felt grateful for having him in your life?

If right now you feel like you’ve “checked out,” or you’re struggling to feel that ease and closeness again, you don’t have to navigate this season alone.

I’m opening Clarity Calls — a gentle, supportive space for you to untangle the knots, reconnect with your marriage, and begin seeing your husband (and yourself) with fresh eyes.

Click here to book your call​

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With duas for renewed love and mercy in your home,
Insiya Abdur Raheem
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​Insiyaar.com​

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