Assalamu Alaikum Reader,

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Going through a hard season doesn’t always look like a big fight or a clear “problem.”

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Sometimes it shows up quietly.

Sometimes it means we check out.

Sometimes we want it easy on one aspect — and often that “aspect” ends up being our husbands.

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And when that happens, it feels easier to say:

“I don’t want to be held accountable right now.”

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But in reality, this is when being loving and understanding feels the most difficult.

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💔 Forgiveness feels heavy.

💔 Letting go of expectations — even the bare minimum — feels impossible.

💔 And patience feels like a test you don’t have the energy for.

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Here’s what you should remind yourself in those moments:

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🌸 You and your husband are on the same team. The stress, the transitions, the messiness — they’re part of your journey, but they don’t have to cost you the person you’re becoming.

🌸 While you practice tolerance, don’t swing to extremes — neither guilt nor disrespect.
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🌸 When couple time is low, and stress is high for both of you, pause and ask yourself:

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➡️ Is the person and the relationship more important, or the task at hand?

➡️ Will this even matter tomorrow — or in a year’s time?

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​Most times, the answer is clear.

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And then remember the beautiful hadith: Losing an argument is still a win.

Because Allah has promised a house in Jannah for the one who gives up argument, even when they are right.

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Choosing peace saves you from turning your home into a battlefield. It saves you from getting stuck in the cycle of “why did this even happen?”

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If you are struggling to feel at ease in your marriage right now, please don’t carry this alone.

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I am offering Clarity Calls — a safe space to release the weight on your heart, gain perspective, and feel calmer in your relationship.

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With duas for ease and barakah in your marriage,

Insiya

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​Insiyaar.com​

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