Assalamu Alaikum Reader,

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You’ve been doing everything “right.”
You wake up before everyone, make breakfast, get the kids ready, clock into work, clean up the home, plan the meals, and still try to look presentable when your husband walks in.

You give, give, and give—yet at the end of the day, something inside you whispers:
“Why do I feel so unseen?”
​ “Why does my heart feel unloved?”

This is one of the quiet fears so many Muslim wives carry—
the fear that maybe she’s invisible in her own marriage.

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🧭 Zoom Out: What’s really happening

Resentment doesn’t begin with anger—it begins with unmet emotional needs.
​ You want to be acknowledged not for your effort, but for your essence.
You want to feel chosen, not just needed.

But when life turns into logistics, love starts to feel like a transaction.
And that’s when the heart begins to harden.

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🌸 Reflection Point

Ask yourself:
“When was the last time I allowed myself to feel loved—without earning it?”

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💡 One Gentle Step

Tonight, instead of trying to do one more thing to please everyone, do one small thing that pleases your heart.
Maybe it’s a slow cup of chai after the kids sleep.
Maybe it’s journaling to Allah—“Ya Allah, I want to feel loved again, and I trust You to guide me there.”

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Reader, I know this ache well.
That’s why I’ve been working on something deeply special—
a short, guided experience to help you soften the resentment, reconnect with yourself, and bring rahmah back into your marriage.

I’ll share more soon, inshaAllah.
For now, just promise yourself this: you deserve ease, too.

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With warmth and dua,
Insiya Abdur Raheem
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​Insiyaar.com​

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