Assalamu Alaikum Reader,

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You’ve been trying harder for so long—
staying patient, keeping the peace, giving him space, doing everything your role demands.

You tell yourself, “If I just try a little harder, things will get better.”
​ But they don’t.
They just get heavier.

This is the fear so many women quietly live with—
the fear that no matter how much they give, their effort will never be enough.

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🧭 Zoom Out: The cycle of overfunctioning

You’re not failing, you’re over-functioning.
You’ve taken responsibility for everyone’s emotions—including your husband’s—without realizing that’s not your job.

You can’t carry the marriage and both hearts alone.
Allah never asked you to.

When a woman releases the need to “fix” everything, she creates space for mercy, softness, and even her husband’s growth to appear.

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🌸 Reflection Point

“What would happen if I stopped doing more—and started doing what actually matters?”

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💡 One Gentle Step

Tomorrow morning, instead of jumping straight into your to-do list, start with tawakkul.
Take a breath, say:
“Ya Allah, I surrender the weight of doing it all. Show me where to pause, not just where to push.”

That’s not laziness—that’s leadership with barakah.

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In a few days, I’ll be sharing a special opportunity to reset this exact pattern—​
​ to help you shift from constant doing to calm being…
so you can find ease again in your marriage without losing yourself.

Stay tuned, inshaAllah—it’s coming soon. 🌙

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With warmth and dua,
Insiya Abdur Raheem
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​Insiyaar.com​

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