Assalamualaikum Reader,

This week brought so much depth, clarity, and honesty across both communities, and I want to gather all of it here for you, so you can reflect at your own pace and carry these insights into the week ahead.

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Peaceful Wife Session Recap

Understanding Triggers from the Inside

One of the most powerful things we explored this week was how triggers are not outside of us.

A trigger is not:
• what your husband said
• the tone he used
• the situation that happened

A trigger is your internal emotional history being activated.

And when you learn how to hold yourself in that exact moment
without collapsing, exploding, or shutting down
you step into emotional adulthood.

This is where real calm comes from.
Not from people behaving perfectly,
but from you understanding your own emotional patterns with honesty and compassion.

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Abundant Muslimah Community

Book Club, Laughter & Islamic Insight

Our second book-club session on Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus was both enlightening and entertaining.

We looked at:

• what aligns with our Islamic values
• what doesn’t
• how emotional needs differ
• how men express stress differently
• why women need emotional connection before problem-solving
• what the book misses when it comes to spiritual depth

And the fun games + laughter reminded all of us that sisterhood is part of healing.
That even in marriage struggles, joy and community matter.

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Postpartum Health

Simple, Gentle Routines That Don’t Drain You

I’ve begun tracking my daily meals, water, and emotional patterns. Not through strict routines, but gentle self-awareness.

I’ve added two small practices:

• These Olivida Olive Tree Drops in warm water every morning
• Turmeric with black pepper in milk

These small acts are helping me reconnect with my body without feeling like “health” is another overwhelming project.

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Free Trainings to Support You

I created two new free resources because so many of you are struggling silently:

How to Not Explode at Your Husband - 2 Mini Training's

Marriage Audit Conversations to help you understand why your marriage feels heavy right now, reply to this email to get started with the audit.

Main Reflection of the Week

We Want Both Romance… and Respect

Every Muslim wife I speak to wants two things in her marriage: Romance & Respect

Not one or the other.

But when communication breaks, when we’re exhausted, when emotional intimacy fades, both feel far out of reach.

Here’s what I’ve observed:

• You want to forgive his shortcomings, but you also want him to honour your heart.
• You want to love him gently, but you also want to feel seen.
• You want connection, but you’re tired of being corrected in front of the kids.
• You want warmth, but you’re still hurting.
• You want romance, but you don’t want to carry the marriage alone.

And this creates an internal conflict:
“How do I revive love when I don’t feel respected?”
“How do I forgive while still honouring myself?”
“How do I soften without slipping back into victimhood?”

The answer is not to deny your pain.

It is to become a stronger, more grounded woman internally—
so that love doesn’t feel like emotional labour,
and respect doesn’t feel like a desperate need,
but becomes the natural outcome of your inner clarity.

When you return to yourself,
when you understand your triggers,
when you heal your emotional patterns,
you stop showing up from fear, and you start showing up from strength.

And from that place, forgiveness becomes easier.
Boundaries become clearer.
Romance revives more naturally.
Respect flows more consistently.

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For the Woman Feeling Stuck Right Now

If you feel like:

• the romance is gone
• the respect is fading
• he is good with everyone else except you
• you’re tired of feeling like the problem
• the resentment is heavy
• you want someone to guide you out of the cycle

I want you to know that nothing is wrong with you.
You’re not failing.
You’re not broken.
You’re not alone.

You’re simply exhausted, layered with unprocessed triggers, postpartum depletion, emotional overwhelm, and not enough support.

And you deserve to be held through this journey with wisdom, compassion, and clarity.

If this is where you are, I invite you to book a call.​
I will help you understand what is happening inside your marriage and inside your heart.

Duas,
Insiya

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